Get to know me: Some questions

I found this a while ago (not sure about the source), and I thought I might use it for the new visitors who don’t know much about me… Or when I want to make a quick blog post.

Were you considered popular in high school? Why or why not?

No way! Quite the contrary, I was the most unpopular. I mean, literally: I was voted the most unpopular person in my class when I was 16.

I have no idea why, though. I guess being socially awkward has something to do with it.

Did you have an enemy or bully when you were young?

Yes. I’ve been bullied a lots of times. Not sure if this requires more elaborate answer. It sucks because I was sometimes bullied by the adults, too.

How often do you go over the speed limit?

I don’t drive. I don’t have a driver’s license.

What was your worst dating experience?
I guess it was with a guy who did it because he lost the bet and he had to ask me out. He didn’t even try to conceal this fact during our date.

How old are you in your dreams?

My age, I guess.

Do you dance like crazy, when no one is looking?

Oh, yes! Well, I think I’m a good dancer, I have rhythm and I’m not shy to show it. But I don’t like being watched, so I do it when nobody’s around.

Do you like to sing in the shower?

No, not really. But I used to do it when I was about 8 and obsessed with the Little Mermaid. Don’t ask.

What do sing in the shower, if you do sing?

Like I said, songs from Disney’s the Little Mermaid. I don’t do it anymore, though.

What do you do when (you think) no one is looking?

I talk to myself. I can get very expressive. I sometimes talk in English. Now, technically, I don’t really talk to myself, I am trying to come up with believable dialogue for my stories.

When you were younger, did you ever drink too much and get sick?

No, but I can get drunk quickly so I just stop drinking when I realize I’m drunk.

22 thoughts on “Get to know me: Some questions

  1. Nkosazana

    lol white people and singing. I swear I never hear you people sing unless it’s a concert and I live in a sea of white people!

    I sing all the time, Maybe It’s just my culture.

    Well at least you people are good at playing musical instruments. Love it when hubby plays his violin. It’s sexy :)

  2. Jessica

    There was actually a contest or vote for who was the most unpopular? Although Ive been through similar in jr high. In the 8th grade, there was a notebook where people had to come up with the top 3 for best smile, best athlete, worst athletic ability etc and I wound up on the list of worst athletic ability AND of unpopular people who wished they were popular. That last one is what got me really pissed because at that time I was anti everything and you couldnt have paid me to hang out with the so called “popular” people.

    In highschool I didnt even go to my prom cause I wouldnt have been caught dead at one. I was the type as soon as that bell rang, I was outta there. I didnt relate to most my peers and I didnt want to be around most of them.

  3. Mira

    Nkosazana,

    Wait, wait, wait… I thought whites can’t dance, not that they can’t sing!

    Jessica,

    There was actually a contest or vote for who was the most unpopular?

    Even worse. The psychology teacher gave us a test/survey (about student popularity), and revealed the results a week later. I think she did it just to see out reaction.

    In highschool I didnt even go to my prom cause I wouldnt have been caught dead at one.

    Same here! Well, I’m not against proms in general, but these people weren’t my friends and I didn’t want to spend more time with them than necessary.

    I wound up on the list of worst athletic ability AND of unpopular people who wished they were popular. That last one is what got me really pissed because at that time I was anti everything and you couldnt have paid me to hang out with the so called “popular” people.

    This is interesting. Why did they think you’d like to be popular?

  4. Paula

    Sometimes I am really glad that I was home schooled! At least I never had to deal with popularity contests and bullies, that just sucks! I am like you when it come to dancing, I like it and have pretty good rhythm, but I don’t like being watched. :)

  5. Mira

    Well, the main reason I don’t like to be watched is that my dance moves might be interpreted as “provocative”, and people might see it as hilarious, in a bad way.

    There’s no such a thing as home schooling in my country; you have to go to a public school, like it or not.

  6. zek j evets

    I sing all the time. It’s my girlfriend who can’t sing! (But she does all the time too.)

    Actually, most of my coworkers sing with me while we work (most of them are White too!).

    I agree with Mira’s confusion… I understand the White (wo)man’s inability to dance, but not our inability to sing. Don’t ya’ll recognize the greatness of Joan Baez & Mr. Blue Eyes??!?!?!?!?!?!?!?

  7. Mira

    Oh, yes. Just because someone likes to sing doesn’t mean he can, but it’s fun to do anyway.

    I just hate to sing in the shower. I don’t want my neighbors to hear me, the walls here are thin! (Which makes me think… never mind).

    Actually, most of my coworkers sing with me while we work

    Now you’re making it seem amazing (your work I mean).

  8. Jessica

    Mira, I have no idea why my name was added to the list of people who want to be popular but it was a huge insult. I didnt even know about that notebook but my friend found it and we started going through it. Seems like the notebook was passed to everyone but us so we didnt get a vote. She was voted as the ugliest.

    At the 8th grade graduation, each of us had to say what we would leave behind or miss about the school and the principal read it out loud at the ceremony. For mine the crowd went wild with laughter cause it said “Jessica (insert last name) leaves behind stupid superficial preps, teachers that play favorites, and the worst years of her life”. I was somethin else man.

    Mira, what your teacher did was just wrong. That had to be traumatizing or at least it wouldve been to me. I remember in the 6th grade our social studies teacher went around the room and asked us what our parents did for a living and how much they made. I had no idea what was the purpose of that but it made me feel inferior that my parents werent as “impressive” as others were. That same teacher on valentines day also named several different girls in the class as being the cutest depending on taste. He was saying things like “Ben might like Lenora while Paul might like Kayla” but I was the ONLY girl in the class never mentioned of who a guy might like. I dont know if anyone else noticed that but I did. Sometimes teachers can be even worse than the students. Several times from 6-8th grade I was humiliated by a teacher in front of the class.

    Paula, you were really lucky to be homeschooled. I begged my mom to homeschool me. To this day when I see kids waiting for the school bus,I feel bad for them. I know how hard it was for me to be at that bus stop and face the day. I wasnt the cutest kid from 10-14. By the time highschool came around I got alot cuter and started getting all this attention from boys including all the guys that teased me when we were younger but I refused to date anyone from my school cause by that time I hated everyone lol.

  9. Mira

    Seems like the notebook was passed to everyone but us so we didnt get a vote. She was voted as the ugliest.

    Oh yes. I hated when stuff like that happen. It often seemed that the whole class participates in some activity, but my best friend and I (and a few other people) were uninvited.

    I guess these kids simply didn’t like you and your friend (for whatever reason), so they had to justify that by making you two seem bad.

    Mira, what your teacher did was just wrong. That had to be traumatizing or at least it wouldve been to me.

    Oh, it wasn’t as bad as some other things teachers did to me, especially one teacher that I don’t wish to remember. Now that was traumatic, so I had to transfer to another school, and so did my best friend.

    This psychology teacher was just… bored, I guess. She wanted to see our reaction. She’d always come up with some shocking/controversial analysis. For example, she labeled my best friend and I lesbians (nothing against lesbians but a) we aren’t and b) my culture is quite homophobic so you can imagine the reaction from the people).

    That had to be traumatizing or at least it wouldve been to me. I remember in the 6th grade our social studies teacher went around the room and asked us what our parents did for a living

    Now that was bad. What was he thinking?

    He was saying things like “Ben might like Lenora while Paul might like Kayla” but I was the ONLY girl in the class never mentioned of who a guy might like.

    Actually, he seems quite strange. I don’t understand why he did that to you, or if he was aware of it.

    By the time highschool came around I got alot cuter and started getting all this attention from boys including all the guys that teased me when we were younger but I refused to date anyone from my school cause by that time I hated everyone lol.

    I bet they were sorry for teasing you!

  10. zek j evets

    I cosign the school-hating vibe going on here. I was generally considered a smartass because I didn’t go with the flow around my peers, and would often challenge or question the teachers in class. Moreover, I was big on debates, especially when someone said something horrible stupid and/or offensive. I would’ve called myself a wise ass haha!

    But yeah, on the other hand I was popular by virtue of being notorious, but I didn’t hang with anyone. I mostly walked around the school by myself, reading, munching, and generally avoiding people.

    Jessica’s stories are pretty bad! I wouldn’t have let that shit fly with me, that’s for sure. I remember I actually bit a teacher once when she tried getting in my face with her hand and humiliating me in the school office.

  11. Jessica

    Zek, If I went to school with you, you wouldve been my hero for biting a teacher lol

    And yeah I went through alot of self esteem crushing events at school. Those kids/teachers should be paying my therapy bills.

  12. Mira

    Zek,

    You’re going to hate me for this, but I think weird and or/smartass boys do have a bit better treatment than the weird/smartass girls. I don’t know why.

    Unless these boys are perceived as effeminate. Nobody could help them in that case.

    But I like the way you handled the teachers.

  13. zek j evets

    Mira,

    Ahh, but I WAS perceived as effeminate, even though I didn’t see myself that way. Probably because I was small, skinny, pale, wore glasses, and generally looked like a half-starved version of Macaulay Culkin.

    And honestly, I’ve always felt that the weird/smartass girls had it easier because 1) boys wouldn’t beat them up, 2) everyone was so confused/intimidated by them that they just ignored them mostly, except for name-calling, and 3) that girls still have that whole “sex” thing going for them, so even/especially in high school they were still more well-liked than me.

    True story: I wrote a script for our drama department’s “original show”. The script consisted of someone getting hit with a whiffle-ball bat in the back while drinking a soda called “Whack Cola”. It was lame comedy, but the drama-kids really enjoyed it. However, they said it would be better if I starred as the kid getting hit with the bat. Reluctantly I wore a bullet-proof vest under a HUGE t-shirt and stood on stage, drinking some knock-off grape-soda, smacking my little lips when all of a sudden WHAM!!!!!, and I fall to the ground in a fake-prone position.

    The whole school loved it, and clapped longest for it than any other skit. They even asked us to do it again.

    This is how universally reviled I was that my entire student-body jumped for joy at even the pretending of my getting beat with a baseball bat.

    So, yeah… top that weird/smartass girls! ; )

  14. Mira

    Ahh, but I WAS perceived as effeminate, even though I didn’t see myself that way.

    I see. Then yes, it sucked for you.

    But I guess we have a different idea of “smartass”. I didn’t mean on “nerdy”. Nerdy girls have an easier time than the nerdy guys. To me, “nerdy” is someone who studies regularly, always has a correct answer, gets straight “A”s, never confronts/rebels teachers, etc.

    But “smartass” is different. I meant on a person who always has something to say, usually to teachers, something snarky or cynical that teachers (often being narrow minded) don’t get. Someone who doesn’t care about the things other kids enjoy and always expresses his/her opinion on it.

    The girl’s situation depends hugely on her physical appearance. If she’s perceived as cute or attractive, she can do whatever she wants and she won’t be harassed in this way (she might be sexually harassed, though).

    But if you’re not seen as cute/feminine, to the point of being seen as sexless, you’re doomed. Nobody would even acknowledge you as a female, but people will still expect you not to act like a guy.

    And I don’t know about US, but here, yes, boys (and other girls) WILL physically attack you if you are an annoying girl. They’d punch you and slap you and throw garbage bins at you. They’d break your foot and teachers would blame you, not them. Etc, etc.

    The guy to deserve this treatment, he needs to be classically nerdy (not smartass), but nerdy, polite with teachers, always doing the homework, never skipping the class = effeminate.

    I admit, the physical force they use on boys is stronger, and boys suffer more injuries. But it’s not like they don’t beat up these “strange” girls.

  15. serpentus

    Everyone, I am still alive. I have gotten back to blogging after my disappearance.

    Weird? Nerdy? Socially retarded? Yes, I was (and probably to an extent still am) all those things.

    Mira,

    As for physical violence, I don’t know much about that. I always thought that the U.S. was always on top of things like that.

  16. Mira

    US get a bad rep for the lack of gun control. It amazes me (in a bad way) that anybody can carry a gun around or shoot people just because they pass near their house.

    But other than that, yes, Americans can be pretty violent, but it’s not that they are alone in this. So no, I wouldn’t categorize Americans as particularly violent.

  17. serpentus

    “Americans can be pretty violent.”

    That’s an understatement.

    There are places in America that aren’t as dangerous. Such as the middle of Arctic Alaska, the desert, or the Grand Canyon…

  18. zek j evets

    Mira,

    Sadly, places where gun control is heavy are often MORE violent than places with less gun control. Chicago, for instance, is a place with lots of gun control laws such that law-abiding citizens cannot carry a concealed weapon, or even a weapon at all. But, of course, if you’re a criminal you don’t care, and since you know unless the other person is a criminal too (unlikely) then you’re not in much danger from them having a weapon or specifically a gun.

    Not that I’m in favor of deregulating guns in America. (Quite the opposite.) But such situations are very interesting.

  19. Alee

    Oh man, I’m late.

    I like this post; I might have to do it myself. Some of this stuff I already knew about you Mira, but the thought of you singing Disney in the shower is too hilarious. :)

    I’m another who didn’t go to high school prom and wasn’t too fond of high school in general. I was excited to get out of there and into the real world (college :P).

  20. Mira

    Zek,

    The problem is, I have this stereotype about US that makes me believe people are legally allowed to shoot others for no reason, for example, if they find them near their house or something. I mean, that on itself seems crazy violent to me.

    But like with any other thing, making something people like illegal will only make more people want it. So I don’t know how gun control should be handled.

    Alee,

    For the record, I don’t sing Disney in the shower! But… I used to, when I was a kid. :P

    It looks like many people ignored their prom…

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